Tantra is an ancient practice, originating in India thousands of years ago. While sex in ancient tantra texts is viewed as a sacred act, today, modern tantra is growing in popularity with Sting and other celebrities making tantric sex well-known all over the world.
What is tantra?
The goal of tantra isn’t to orgasm. You may be surprised that tantra focuses on the flow of sexual energy throughout the body, and the spiritual awakening which occurs. Many people use tantra as a holistic therapy to eliminate negative sexual emotions and alleviate issues, such as impotence and premature ejaculation.
Anyone can learn to practice tantra. With continuous learning, you’ll become more confident in the bedroom, your relationship with your partner will improve, and you’ll discover new ways of pleasure.
How tantric sex can make you a better lover
Intimacy
The meaning of tantra is the weaving of energy. Tantric techniques such as tantric massage are extremely intimate, offering a loving connection between two people. If you’ve been struggling with a relationship, tantra is highly beneficial for getting your love life back on track.
Tantric massage gives you the opportunity to take time out from your busy lifestyle to nurture your relationship. You can have a steamy shower together before your tantric massage to create a physical and emotional connection.
Increased passion
An erotic massage like a tantric massage enhances the passion in your life. Making time for tantra allows you to explore your sexual side, learning new skills in the bedroom, and new ways of pleasuring each other. This sensual massage, using the body to body contact to build sexual energy, brings contentment and excitement.
If your love life has been static, practice tantric massage with your partner or consider using reputable tantric specialists such as Karma Tantric (in London) or White Lotus East (in NYC) and discover how to have an enjoyable sex life.
Delayed Gratification
Tantra is a slow form of lovemaking, giving you and your partner stimulating passion over several hours. Building up sexual energy is highly arousing, helping you and your partner to concentrate on a deeper connection rather than just having an orgasm.
Many people find that tantra increases their confidence in the bedroom, so they’re finally able to enjoy sex rather than find it a chore. This also contributes to longer love making – your mind and body become trained to enjoy sexual arousement, becoming highly skilled in the bedroom. You’ll become a confident lover, with your increased self-esteem allowing you to enjoy deep fulfillment with your partner.
Instead of shying away from sex, you’ll know what you like and what you don’t like, so your partner can pleasure you exactly as you desire.
Enhanced orgasm control
While orgasm isn’t the sole focus of tantra, tantric techniques certainly aid orgasm control. The build-up of sexual energy that flows throughout the body enables you to take your partner to the edge of orgasm and back again.
If you’ve been struggling with premature ejaculation, you’ll find that tantra techniques work wonders for alleviating this issue. By focusing on caressing movements, sensuous and teasing touches, you’re able to pleasure your partner without focusing too much on orgasm.
By bringing your sexual energy to a natural happy ending, you’ll start to find lovemaking a rewarding and passionate act.
Spiritual connection
Tantra and tantric massage offer a deeper spiritual connection than regular lovemaking. Tantra uses meditation techniques, such as breathing control and massage, to create a spiritual connection between you and your partner. While tantra offers a mind-blowing happy ending, you’ll relish the mental and emotional connection.
Some Tantric specialists will guide you through how sexual energy is stored in particular locations linked to Chakras in the body. By learning how to release and reconnect with energy flows, you can discover how to unlock these.
Tantra creates a relaxed feeling in the body, providing a path of enlightenment to a higher state of bliss. The energy you build up during tantra gives you and your partner a deeper state of a physical connection.
Bodily Benefits
Tantric massage that helps you reconnect with your body on both a physical and emotional level can relax and relieve a number of other problems related to bodily health. Tantra has renowned health benefits that include releasing tension from the body, acting as a natural pain relief for complaints such as headaches and muscle ache. A 2002 study revealed a reduction in the number of tension headaches experienced by patients undergoing massage therapy.
These bodily benefits of Tantra also extend to increasing the flow of blood circulation, particularly when practiced on a regular basis. This increased blood flow has invigorating effects on the body linked to better energy levels and sexual drive.
How to perform tantric massage with a partner
The best way to set the mood for a tantric massage is to light a few candles, play soothing music, and lay down a few towels on the floor. Using scented massage oil, begin to slowly caress your partner with slow, lingering touches all over the body. Work downwards toward the genital area.
Move and breathe slowly as you connect with the body to body movements. Move onto your partner’s lap as you build up the sexual energy. Continue to use soft touches all over the body as you start to make love and finish with an explosive ending.
About the author:
Erica Suarez-Hillingdon is a sex therapist and expert on everything related to tantra, tantric sex, and tantric massage. She is the editor at Karma Tantric, London’s premier tantric massage agency, and writes about how tantra can help men, women, and couples improve their sex lives.